Food and Beverage serving etiquette. I have issues with a waitress I work with.?

I can't imagine that there's no management at a fine dining establishment. I just don't see that this problem is your responsibility to resolve. Either it's fine with management, in which case you'll have to learn to live with it, or it's not, in which case management is responsible for training and managing staff, so have a chat with them and bring the problem to their attention.